feeling like a bad wife

i've been a lame wife. great way to start a post, huh? but i have and it's stinks when i have to realize i'm the one that's wrong. i really don't like being wrong.

i've bumped down my husband way to the bottom of the totem pole unintentionally and have left him there for the past couple of weeks, because his wheel hasn't been the loudest one squeaking. that's how the phrase goes right? anyway. he's not very expressive with his words. he will never sit down with me and say, 'honey, i'm feeling neglected.' so it makes it hard for me to realize when i am neglecting him.


i've placed other things higher in priority like the house, my art, the kids, everything else but him. yes, i said the kids too. but shouldn't the kids be a higher priority than a man?

i know many of you have seen where some women will go, first is God, second my husband, third the kids. i admit when i would read that, i would be appalled, offended almost that the kids would be placed last. growing up my mother made it very clear that kids came first after God. kids ate first, kids got loved on first. and so it became a commandment almost for my sisters and I to do the same. i know my mom's view stems from her father walking out on her and her siblings when they were very small, but if i begin to look at it from a biblical standpoint, the truth is my husband should come after God but before everything else, including the kids.

'wives submit to your husbands as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior.' Ephesians 5:22


We've all heard the saying 'happy wife, happy life,' but how selfish is it to only grasp on to that for ourselves as women. our men have feelings too, even if they don't express them like we do writing a mile long post on their blog or crying over half a gallon, okay, a gallon of ice cream.
when i love on my husband and make him feel important, he is better at being the head of the household. when i place effort in everything i do, including laundry, having a clean home for him to come home to, and a warm fresh meal, i show him he is extremely important in my life and that i appreciate everything he does. the result is him loving me and respecting me like Christ the church. (Ephesians 5:25), but more importantly when i place him as a priority, i serve him as Christ has instructed me to do. I minister to him the servitude of Christ and in even those tedious homemaking tasks, I glorify God.

'whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for men.' Colossians 3:23

These past few weeks I felt somewhat of a distance between us and today during a conversation between us, I realized I had been taking him for granted. Let's just say that this wife here, had a hot date with Mr. mop and Mrs. broom, brought along Lysol and scrubbed the heck out of the house. Got my booty into the kitchen and prepared a nice, warm meal for him to come home to.Then we made out. just kidding. i was ex.hausted! but I will need to be better at remembering this. i love my hubby to death!

till next time friends.

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